I loved this quote: “[Phone use is a red flag if] they’re hanging out with you and they’re constantly on their phone […] It’s the fact that I don’t have their undivided attention — ever — that puts my hackles up.” — Megan Boley (”Are You Dating a Bucket of Red Flags?” in P.S. I Love You)
Thanks Megan Boley!!! Your great article inspired me to investigate this particular red flag (mobile phone use) in more detail. Check it out:
Is Phone Use a Red Flag in Relationships?
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I think the solution is better communication.
I am not sure it is clear that the offender (using their phone) realizes that they are making the other person feel uninteresting and put-down.
And, I think this can be solved by asking for what we want — “Hey, can you put your phone away when we hang out?” For example:
Friend: “I see you as not fully engaged and present when I see you looking at your phone.” NOT: “What are you doing there on your phone?”
Derek: “Sorry, my bad. I want a little bit of different stimulation, so can we take a quick walk outside?” NOT: “Why do you want to know?”
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Here’s to keeping my phone in my pocket!